KNOWLEDGE: AN IMPORTANT ALLY

Knowledge is an important ally on this journey. Even though the doctors told us and explained what was going on, usually it was so much information thrown in our faces at once, that we couldn’t take it all in. Or it was explained in such long, technical terms, we didn’t really understand what it all meant. I’ve never understood why most doctors talk to you like you have a computer dictionary in your brain, instead of just using normal words like a normal human.

Don’t be afraid to take notes during appointments. (I regret that.) If you don’t understand, ask him/her to explain it again. Ask for printed information, search online, and talk with people who have been through it. But remember that in the medical world, research is always updating and changing medical practices. So, just because you talked to someone who went through IVF 10 years ago, it may not be the same in today’s time.

Although, even if you’ve done all the research you can, I’ll give you a fair warning that you’ll never truly understand it all until you’ve been through it yourself! But I guess that’s true with any aspect of life! Experience is the best ally!

There are so many different doctors and clinics that practice varying techniques for infertility. Even when doing the same treatment, they can use different procedures, medications, etc. So, when researching online, it can be difficult because just because one clinic lists how they do it, it doesn’t mean the next clinic will be the same. But it gives you a good general idea and starting place, nonetheless.

Oftentimes, I feel that that I know more of what’s going on than the doctors do. Remember that this is your plan, you have a say in your treatment. Fight! No one will fight harder than you for you. So if something doesn’t sound right or feel right – speak up. You you’re your own body better than anyone else. Don’t be afraid to take control. Ask questions. Be annoying. (I like to think of annoying as “being prepared.”) Call. Do whatever you need to do. This is your body and your life. And that is worth speaking up for!!