INFERTILITY: THE FIRST YEAR

October 2006 through October 2007

For us, the first year of infertility was just going through the motions. You’re hopeful that you will get pregnant soon since the definition of infertility is, “the inability to conceive a child after one year of sexual intercourse without contraception.” So, even though during that year of disappointments, you’re not really “in trouble yet,” because it hasn’t been one full year. It can take a while, and that’s normal. So, we’re still normal, right?

It was hard during our first year of infertility. We didn’t want to tell anyone because we wanted our pregnancy to be a surprise. Why tell anyone because we figured within a few months we’d be pregnant. But as the months passed by, that idea slowly faded. I think I lasted only a few months before we told my older sister, Jesse. I confided in her a lot and am so thankful we live so close. Only a few other people knew, some found out by “accident,” but after the first year, we decided we needed support if we were going to make it through this. So, we didn’t hold back. If the opportunity arose, I told anyone…