Our precious boys...

Our precious boys...

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

MY LIFE TIMES TWO!!



Make one bottle. Make another bottle.
Feed one baby. Feed another baby.
Burp one baby. Burp another baby.
Clean one bottle. Clean another bottle.
Change a diaper. Change another diaper.
Clothe one baby. Clothe the other baby.
Wash one load of laundry. Wash another load of laundry.
Hold a baby. Hold another baby.
Bathe one baby. Bathe another baby.
Put a pacifier in. Put another pacifier in.
Write in one baby book. Write in another baby book.
Take one baby’s picture. Take the other baby’s picture.
Strap one baby in a car seat. Strap another baby in a car seat.
Oh yes, everything I do - I do it TIMES TWO!!

Okay…you get the idea…

Oh, and I’m not complaining. I’m just explaining my life…times TWO!!! (And secretly thanking God that it’s not times 3…or 4!!)

Thursday, November 25, 2010

GIVING THANKS

On Thanksgiving, we give thanks. Although we all need to remember to give thanks each and every day! This Thanksgiving I am especially grateful and thankful for all the amazing people in my life. And so I give thanks to and for YOU!

But, saying “thanks” just doesn’t seem like enough. I wish there was something I could do so everyone truly knew how grateful Nick and I are. So even though it is difficult to fully express how thankful we are in words, we pray everyone “just knows.” Thanks isn’t just a word that comes out of our mouths…our thanks is felt deep down from Nick and my hearts. It’s something we praise everyday. I hope you see our thanks each and every time you look at Eli and Will…

The support we’ve been given is something we will cherish forever and hope to pay it forward for the rest of our lives. We have hundreds of people to thank for their love and support during all our walks of life and especially with our infertility and now new roles and a mommy and daddy. From prayers to words of encouragement to meals to gifts of diapers, we’ve been so spoiled by our family and friends. We are so grateful to have you in our lives. And we’re so grateful that Eli and Will will grow to know you!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

TWO MONTHS OLD!

Hope, wishes, and dreams sometimes come true...times two!!

Happy two months Elijah & Will!

ELIJAH


WILL

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

IT TAKES TIME

Being a new mommy is so exciting, but so overwhelming. There is so much to learn and get comfortable with. No one really prepared me for the fact that the first few months were going to be so hard! Of course I didn’t know what to expect, but I can say it was harder than I imagined. Everything is so new, thrown in your face all at once. Recovering from a major surgery (for those of us who had c-sections) and the sleep deprivation just doesn’t help anything either! Overwhelming just doesn’t seem to be the right word. Because it’s so much more! You are given this precious little human (or humans in my case) and suddenly need to know how to care for and support them. That is stressful because you want to do everything perfectly for your perfect little angel (or angels)! Being a mom is a tough job. And it takes time to get used to this new role, this new job, this new career…

Society puts so many false notions out there about having a baby. The movies usually show how perfect everything is and how the mother falls in love the moment she first holds her baby. It’s so cliché. And in real life, when you talk to someone who recently had a baby, she tells you how wonderful it is and not how painful the labor was or how the baby cried all night. People sugarcoat it and don’t tell you the bad parts. Don’t let anyone tell you that being a mother comes 100% natural! Yes, some parts are, but so many more aren’t. Knowing how to change a diaper doesn’t come natural. Although I must say I am a professional at diaper changes already. HA!

So when a new mommy finds motherhood anything slightly less than perfect, she feels like a failure compared to all the other “super moms” out there. But that is so not true. I was so happy to realize that the feelings I was having were normal and that it didn’t make me a bad mother. It made me human and a normal mother! And everyone else felt it to some extent, they just didn’t vocalize it. I was thankful to know that in time, I would become one of those “super moms” that other people look to. Because…it takes time. No one can do it all right away. And of course there is no such thing as a true “super mom” because all moms have hard times. (And if someone considers themselves a “super mom”, then ironically they are probably the ones who are the farthest from it!) I am okay with saying that I like every other mom gets frustrated, they cries, but keeps moving forward remembering that “it too shall pass” and that it takes time…

I have now embraced the fact that it takes time. It takes time to get used to this new life. It takes time to learn how to change a diaper. It takes time to get comfortable. But everything gets easier. People told me all this after the babies came and at first I didn’t believe it. But it is true! Thank goodness! I can now change a diaper super fast, am comfortable at feeding two babies at once, and finally feel as if I’m not going to break the babies!! And it’s only been two months. I’ve gone from thinking I wasn’t going to survive to now knowing that I can…and I will!

Now whenever I get stressed I try to remind myself….it takes time!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

TWINS ARE TERRIFIC!!

Twins Are Terrific!

6 Reasons It's Great Having Twins
By I.J. Schecter

The experience of raising a baby does have its challenges – keeping him away from sharp corners, deciding when to cut her hair for the first time, not freaking out if he isn't speaking in complex sentences by the age of 10 months. But raising two babies? That's a whole different ball of wax. Ask most people if they'd want twins and the answer is, well, tinged with a bit of justifiable apprehension. But to get the real dope, you have to go to the source – and when you do, you discover that there are plenty of aspects of the twin experience that sets it apart in unrivaled ways. Here are 6 reasons it's great to have twins!

1. It's the Ultimate Two-for-One
Two medium pizzas for the price of one? Anyone can score that kind of deal. Buy-one-get-one-free at your local Blockbuster, Subway or Sports Authority? Nothing to write home about. But knocking off two pregnancies in one shot? That is a truly mind-blowing achievement.

"Oh, it's got its particular hurdles," says Jane Rosenberg, a mother of twins from New York. "But I'd take that two-for-the-price-of-one pregnancy again anytime!"

And here's the best part: Though you're incubating two human beings at the same time, by no stretch of the imagination are you creating carbon copies in there. For one pregnancy, you're rewarded with two completely distinct individuals. "It's amazing how you can carry two babies at one time and nurture them both in the same ways, yet they still grow up to be two unique individuals with different likes, dislikes, talents and abilities," says Toronto mom Julie Bleiwas. And she's right – you get to enjoy two people who share something indescribable and unshakable yet who will captivate and charm you with their own specific talents and quirks each and every day.

2. Genetic Wonderment
You know those reports in which twins separated at birth meet after 40 years only to discover they have the same wardrobes, the same jobs, the same hobbies and spouses who could pass for each other? Those aren't made up. Plenty of studies have demonstrated the uncanny bond shared by those who occupy the same womb for the first several months of their lives. Seeing this bond play out every day as twins develop together highlights just how amazing genetics really is. If you've always leaned toward the nurture side of the argument, spend some time watching twins in action, and see just how fast you swing over to the nature part of the equation.

"It's taken having my own set of twins to make me realize how eerie the connection is," Bleiwas says. "I'll never forget the first time Jordyn was telling a story and she and Samara started finishing each other's sentences as the story went along – even though the experience had only happened to one of them. By now, I'm used to it."

3. Entertainment Value
Finishing each other's sentences. Speaking a private language whose rules are known only to them. Endless possibilities for practical jokes at the expense of unsuspecting others. Observing twins on a day-to-day basis isn't just fascinating; it's loads of fun, too. Just try to convince them to go easy on the pranks. It's incredible – and disturbing – what twins can pull off if they want to.

4. The Built-in Best Friend
Fascination and entertainment aside, one of the most wonderful and enduring advantages of twins is that each is supplied automatically with a bosom buddy for life. This isn't to say that siblings of different ages don't also become close, but twins are linked in a deeper, more inextricable way. And they don't need to learn to become intimately familiar friends, nor do parents need to force either one of them on the other. There is an unbreakable, almost mystical connection from the very start, one which only strengthens over time.

"My twins, Remy and Sidney, are best friends and constant companions, and that warms my heart," Rosenberg says. "Each one of them knows she has someone there for her for sharing secrets, making plans, dreaming, hoping ... or just hanging out. You can't put a price on that."

Tracey Levine, a mom from Richmond Hill, Canada, agrees. "As far as I'm concerned, the best part about having twins is that the two children have an instant and lifelong friend and playmate," she says. "That's invaluable. Most of us hope to find a true best friend at some point in our lives. Each of my girls, Eva and Tal, has had one since birth and will have one for the rest of her life. I wouldn't trade that for anything."

5. Double the Precious Moments
You know all those moments parents love to talk about? You get to experience them twofold – all of them.

"Breastfeeding is a magical experience no matter what," Bleiwas says. "But when you're breastfeeding both twins at one time, as though you're holding two footballs, and they look up at each other and lock eyes for the first time, or when they're sleeping side by side and one is sucking her thumb and her sister is sucking the other thumb of the first ... well, all I can say is it's hard to describe the emotion."

Rosenberg puts it even more succinctly: "Two words: double hugs!" she says.

6. You Climb Both Learning Curves at Once
For most parents, there are (at least) three equal but separate trials: learning how to raise a baby; learning how to maintain a normal and productive personal and professional lifestyle while still providing love, care and appropriate stimulation for your child; and learning how to manage the often-complicated sibling dynamic. With twins, you have no choice but to become experts in all of these areas concurrently.

In other words, you acquire more than twice the expertise of other parents in half the time. Sure, they may have multiple children, too, but at least they get time to adjust to the challenges of each in a linear sequence, kind of like being able to study for a single exam at a time instead of having to deal with several, covering different subjects, at once. You're placed in a metaphorical classroom, handed several textbooks, given a bit of time to read them all and then asked to demonstrate your mastery. Now that's impressive!

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

7 Weeks old: 2 MONTH SHOTS

The boys had a doctor's appointment and their 2 months shots today. There were 4 immunizations: 3 shots and one liquid swallowed. Poor little guys. Hard enough to watch/listen to one go through it and then one to the next. They got two shots in one leg and one in the other. Both boys bled, but in opposite legs. They seem to be doing okay. They are napping now, but every time they move their legs, they wake up, whimper and cry. I just gave them tylenol for the first time. I hope it helps. I've never heard them scream and cry so loudly before. It just breaks a mommy's heart...

But on a positive note - both boys gained 14 ounces this week!!! Almost a pound in one week again!! Awesome! Gee...they seem to have to do things a lot alike. They must be twins! Ha! Elijah is now 9 pounds 4 ounces, which puts him in the 10.81 percentile. And Will is now 8 pounds 13 ounces, which is in the 6.12 percentile.

They are now 7 weeks old and weighing in at regular "newborn" size!! These little men are catching up fast. They are even starting to fit into newborn clothes too! Yippee!! (Good thing because we needed a better wardrobe selection. The few preemie clothes we had them wearing over and over again were getting a little boring! They need to stay fashionable you know, especially since we've receive so many adorable outfits!!)

Also, both boys are the same length/height now, measuring in at 21.25 inches. Gee...they must be twins!! (..okay, that joke is probably going to get old!) This puts them in the 11.14 percentile for height. Elijah's head circumference is 15 inches (22.4 percentile) and Will's is 14.25 inches (3.82 percentile.)

Elijah and Will are doing wonderful. No issues at all. Praise God! Their next appointment isn't until 4 months old in January. Their pediatrician is very pleased. We even sweet talked some Enfamil formula samples out of him. No issues at all for these perfectly healthy precious babes. We are so blessed!

Sleeping after their shots...

JUST ANOTHER DAY

This daddy can do it all!


This momma is pumping iron!!


These babes are matching cutie pies!!

Monday, November 1, 2010

GIVING BIRTH TO TWINS = the. best. diet. EVER!!

The best (and only! Oh wait...I did try the South Beach Diet but only last a few hours before I broke down hysterically crying. That diet ended fast!) diet I've ever done was the "delivering twins diet!" HA! I gained 41 pounds in 8 months with my pregnancy with twins. Not too shabby! (Although who knows how much I would have gained in that last month of pregnancy if I went full term!) And I am ever so proud to say that I lost those 41 pounds in less than 2 weeks after delivery. Seriously!! It was amazing! But I can’t really brag though because I didn’t do anything to loose it. Well, wait, I guess that is the reason to brag. I didn’t do anything at all, it just all came right off! But I know much of that was water weight as my whole body was swollen! My doctor was amazed at my weight loss that quickly. And I was too! Not to mention that fact that I lost the weight of two babies, two placentas, etc. and that adds up to a lot!

I had wanted to weigh myself the next day after delivery in the hospital but they didn’t have a scale. How could they not have a scale?!?! I couldn’t be the only person who wanted to weigh myself right after delivery to see how much weight they had lost!? I was so curious as to how much just losing the babies, placentas, etc. was equal to! I remember the next day after delivery looking down at my legs and feet exclaiming, “My feet! Those are my feet!” They were so swollen for so long during my pregnancy, that seeing them “normal” was like seeing a long lost friend again! I was so excited! I could wear more than my one pair of flip flops again! I also realized that I hadn’t even comprehended how swollen they really were until I saw them normal size again! I swear I must have glanced down at them hundreds of times that day in complete awe! (I know you think I’m crazy – but seriously, trust me – it was a dramatic difference!!)

Okay, I’ll brag about one more fact and then bring myself back to reality with a downer fact!! So after losing the 41 pounds, I went on to loose 9 more pounds in the next month after delivery. That means in one month after giving birth to twins, I weighed 9 pounds less than when I first became pregnant. And that I lost a total of 50 pounds in 4 weeks!!! I really don’t exactly know why I lost that much and so quickly. I’m sure breastfeeding helped. And the fact that I weighed more before I got pregnant perhaps from all the fertility medications I was on. And that I ate healthier during the pregnancy. (Oh who am I kidding? I had ice cream almost every day!) But before you get too jealous, I have gained back 4 pounds very fast since quitting breastfeeding and pumping!

Okay, here’s the big downer so you don’t get too envious of me. Even with all that great weight loss, (and I can’t believe I am telling this to the world) I have a huge gut that is saggy and stretched and covered with oh so nasty stretch marks all around my belly button protruding outward in all directions. Yuck. And my belly button has turned into a concave valley. (It’s the weirdest thing ever! If you are brave enough to see such a sight, ask me because I may be okay with showing you!)

During a cesarean birth, the cut is made into the abdominal wall and then the muscle is pulled apart to reveal the uterus. The uterus is then cut open and the baby is pulled out between the muscle fibers often causing stretching. That stretching is what makes it difficult to get your stomach back into good muscle tone afterwards. My OB said if I want it to go away, I’ll have to do some major working out. Boo hoo! This is because my "gut" is basically my stretched out muscles. Therefore, if I work on those muscles, they will shrink back in and the gut should disappear. The body is an amazing thing! (And if you know me, you know how much I love to work out...ha ha!)

I was out of maternity clothes after one month, but I still wear my “bella band” (a seamless band that is tight and can hold up your jeans without being buttoned!) because I can’t button all my regular jeans. And who knows if I’ll ever be the same size again. I think I'll be wearing that bella band forever. (Oh, the joys of your stomach being stretched to all ends during a pregnancy with multiples.) Those boys better appreciate me and what my poor stomach went through! If they ever give me grief, I may just have to show them my belly war wounds and say, “look what you did to me!” HA HA HA HA!

Even though my body has changed in wild ways (people had warned me about them, but I didn’t believe it until now!) – I am thankful for this blessing. (I’ll spare you from going into detail about what other ways my body has changed!) Yes, they are my war wounds and I will learn to appreciate them. Like I was ever really going to wear a bikini again anyway, right?

And even though I still look 20 weeks pregnant...(seriously...my stomach still looks like it did when I was about 20 weeks along!) I will be thankful (most of the time!)

This photo was taken the night before the babies were born on September 12th. We had no idea that the next day I would deliver! I couldn’t even fit into pregnancy clothes anymore. As you can see, my gut is clearly hanging out! (Speaking of which, I don’t know why they don’t make pregnancy clothes for those pregnant with multiples. If I bought bigger sizes to fit my belly, it was way to large everywhere else so I couldn’t wear those either.) So, needless to say, I was ready to get those twins out of me. I’m not sure how much more I could have really stretched without popping!


And this photo was taken on September 9th. I’m not sure how many inches around I measured. My plan was to measure it before delivery, but in all the craziness, I forgot!!