Sunday, January 29, 2012
TODDLERS: What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine!
Before the twins were born, people would tell me that having twins is awesome because the boys will have an instant playmate. It's not like having one baby that you, as a parent, have to entertain yourself because they don't have anyone else to play with. This excited me! Woo hoo!! Another benefit of having twins over a singleton. And yeah, it made sense. I thought, "Sweet!! I'll barely have to watch them. They'll just play nicely with each other while I relax on the couch eating my bonbons, reading a book." Okay, so I knew it wouldn't be THAT easy, but I did think it'd be a little easier than what it is right now.
Maybe I'm naive or just plain stupid, but I thought "instant playmate" meant sweet little twins playing ever so gently and politely with each other while laughing and giggling all day long. Oh, how wrong I was. Eli and Will as instant playmates are more like instant criminals! (But way super cute little criminals!)
Yes, there are those special sweet times. And it's so adorably precious when they play together so sweetly! But it seems like lately, there's much more of this: grunting, crying, and screaming. It's more of a "tackle each other, bite each other, and steal toys right out of each other's hands no matter what it is and run off as fast as they can screaming thinking they have surely conquered the world" playing. I swear that even now at only 16 months of age, they are communicating behind my back, planning these conspiracies to drive me absolutely nuts. Yes, they ARE criminals!
I also thought that with having two at the same time that they'd learn to share a little faster and easier. Wishful thinking, I guess. Cause then I picture what it'd be like to have only one baby who didn't have to fight with anyone. I bet it'd be a lot calmer and quieter! I suppose even though it's rough now, it will pay off for the future. They will know how to share easier in the long run. Right?
And there's not even any SITTING on the couch for me, yet alone laying on the couch! No bonbon eating. :( (Ya know, I have never even had a bonbon. Are they really that delicious?) Anyway, if I sit on the couch, the twins want up to too. Which would be just fine if they would sit there, but all they want to do is stand up. Every time they do, I picture them falling over the back of the couch to their death. Not very relaxing, let me tell you.
I know they are toddlers and it's normal because they are learning and testing their boundaries...blah, blah, blah. But is it really too much of me to ask that they grow out of it and learn to share and be gentle with each other right now!? HA HA!! Or is this just a boy thing too? If so, oh my, I am really in for some interesting years.
I was warned that boys can be rough, as in "a little more physically active." Yeah, that's the nice way to put it. But, the whole wrestling thing really thrown me for a loop, I didn't think that would happen at least until they were 2 years old. But Will sure knows how to tackle Eli. It looks like he's really trying to pin him! Where did he learn that? Just natural instinct, perhaps. (Although, it is pretty funny and usually Elijah just giggles, so it can be pretty darn cute to watch those little wrestlers!)
In case you couldn't tell from reading, being a mother of multiples really sucks the life out of me some days and needless to say, 7:30pm (the boys' bedtime) is a very welcomed time around here. But I know no matter how hard some days may be, I'll make it through. One day at a time.
I wouldn't change my life. It may not be perfect, but it's my life. A life with my two precious miracles who drive me nuts from time to time, but I love them with my whole heart. Thank you, God, for this beautiful gift!
The phrase, "What's mine is mine and what's yours is mine!" is really apparent in the Vincelli house lately! And here's a toddler poem that captures it so perfectly...
THE TODDLER CREED
by Dr. Burton L. White
If I want it,
If I give it to you and change my mind later,
If I can take it away from you,
If it's mine it will never belong to anybody else,
No matter what.
If we are building something together,
All the pieces are mine!
If it looks just like mine,
If it breaks or needs putting away,
Posted by Amy Cox Vincelli